Wednesday, November 29, 2017

KFC Sisters reunited!

Aloha, my cutiepies!

Last time, my sister decided to visit us. She is from far away & I am glad to have her here. She misses bubble tea a lot, haha! We love eating chicken (I try not to eat too much meat, though) & my sister dropped by at Kentucky Fried Chicken and bought me some. ^-^
The next day, she was generous and bought me some chicken at KFC again + french fries. That's ma sis! ๐Ÿ‘Œ

We had a beautiful day at the Dรผsseldorf Rhine. It was a cold day, but not cold enough for me for not going out with a dress. I don't do it everyday, but my sister and I just wanted to have a nice going out. :) Feels good to dress nicely again because I currently wear a hoodie with unsuitable baggy sport pants a lot. It's warm and cozy. ๐Ÿ˜Œ Today, I heard from a friend, who works at my old school, that it's a trend for high schoolers now. Is that true? I guess I wear something in trend now, even if I didn't intend to follow a trend. ๐Ÿ˜€

It got cold in the evening. ^^'

Sassy!

I love Dรผsseldorf!

I miss my sister. I wish I could meet her more often.

Do you guys have any siblings? Write down your love letter to them here in this blog!

Saturday, November 25, 2017

Facebook: Preventing dudes from messaging me


Hey, my beauties & handsomes!

I received a message from a stranger on Facebook who wanted to get to know me. The poor guy didn't know that I'm in a relationship, haha! To prevent any other similar circumstances like that, I finally changed my relationship status after 11 months of being in a relationship. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Crazy, right? You may wonder why I changed it now. It's because it wasn't neccessary for me to have a relationship status on my Facebook profile at all. When I was a single lady, it was weird for me to have 'single' on my profile. It could attract some random message in my inbox. ๐Ÿ˜† Then I met my boyfriend and tried to make our relationship private on Facebook. The people that were in my life knew about my relationship anyway.

I noticed it was neccessary to change my status, until I got messaged by that stranger. You could say it was brave (?) that he had the guts to message a stranger like me. However, it's actually easy to message people online just like that. If you get rejected, it might hurt a bit, but you would forget it. 

What do you think? Could you say messaging people online to make moves is brave or not?

I haven't talked about my relationship by the way. It could be an interesting post for you, right? I mentioned my boyfriend in this post. He doesn't like social media. ^^ Shoot me a question if you want to know anything. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ


Saturday, November 18, 2017

The New Emojis - NOT NECCESSARY! ๐Ÿ˜’

Hello, dear readers!

Don't get me wrong - I LOVE emojis. I don't know how it is with the Android community, but recently, the iPhone family had a new update. It includes a hella bunch of new emojis and some of them are actually cute and I'd use some of them a lot.

I like the ones with the two stars on the eyes. Also the mother, who holds a baby on her arm, is pretty sweet. :-)

(x)

However, I am so annoyed by unneccessary emojis that you wouldn't really use. Most of us haven't even used half of the old ones and probably would never. Therefore, we surely won't use all of the unneccessary new ones. -_- It's just a waste of storage space, to be honest, and that really pisses me off. 

Are you in the Android or iPhone crew?
What are the most unneccessary emojis in your opinion?
or Which ones are your favorites?

Friday, November 10, 2017

Emptying your wardrobe - TORTURE!

Hey hey! ^^
It's time to empty my wardrobe! I have clothes from 5 years ago, hello? ๐Ÿ˜‚ Unfortunately, I have never worn most of them. That time, I thought about wearing them if "I was ready for changing my style, but for now, let's just buy those beautiful clothes." ... What on earth?! Mini-me, why didn't you think through the fact that you're gonna grow out of it? ๐Ÿ˜‘
I'm selling the clothes I don't wear anymore online, so I won't be as broke as now, y'all feel me? ๐Ÿ˜† Can't wait to see more space in my wardrobe. ๐Ÿ˜

Do you guys know any good websites for selling your clothes? ๐Ÿ˜

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Fashion Ideas: School Outfit๐Ÿ‘“

Hi everyone! ๐ŸŽ€

I remember when I started to read blogs & the blogger I checked out daily was Sarah Hockemeier. Unfortunately, she doesn't blog anymore, but I like to think back about the interesting posts she published. I was especially interested in her posts as a teenage mom & was fascinated by the fashion collage she did for inspiration.

I just created my own collage on a German website. If I had enough money, I'd be interested to express myself through fashion. However, I am also totally fine with my minimalistic life & still can feel myself. ๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿ˜‹

I thought about a cute school outfit. The colors are so bright, I love it! The colors suit to the winter season & it's totally wearable with a nice jacket. ๐Ÿ˜ I feel so girly right now. Even this blog is also for the male readers. ๐Ÿ˜‚

What do you think of that outfit?
Gentlemen, would you take out women who wear that kind of style? ๐Ÿ˜

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Verbal abuse IS a kind of abuse!


Yesterday, I published a post about how I got verbally abused by my host mom. Only the relationship between her & me was described. That's it. She is not a bad person in general. She is good with her kids & has skills. I got sweet, heart-warming mails and messages on Facebook from you guys. You told me about your similar situations and wished me all the best. I appreciate you from the bottom of my heart! ๐Ÿ’– You are the best and deserve the best!

Unfortunately, there were also comments that I want to bring up to you guys...

1.

Calling me out just because I told you about my own experience and because I wrote on my blog how I felt. Hold on... that's a blog! My blog! An online diary! How is that immature if you express your feelings? I didn't intend to make anyone bad, but shared my lovely readers what I experienced. Additionally, I even wrote on my latest post that I love the au pair concept and my agency, plus how thankful I am to have all the experiences and things that were provided to me by my host family to make me grow. That's why I don't see the point of claiming that I'd give the au pair program & the Department State a bad light. And uhmm... no, I didn't write that I asked my host mom to not treat me like a child. ^^ I wrote, "I told her she spoke to me in a way that discouraged me" & asked her politely to not speak to me in that way anymore. So, guys, as you can see: people always want to understand what they want to understand. ๐Ÿ’†

"From what I just read, I see you trying to show the world how angry and disappointed you are."
You got it! That's the point.

2.

I truly apologize to all the au pairs & victims of verbal abuse for having to read these negative comments under my post, lacking of empathy. This post is dedicated to you. I speak for you!
Reading all these comments, you can see that people mistake verbal abuse with physical abuse. And if you say 'abuse', it's automatically connected with the physical abuse. I understand that you might haven't dealt with this kind of matter. It's alright. It's always great to learn something new. :) I don't mean it in a bad way. Let's ask Mr. Wikipedia...

(x)

My host mom didn't do all of it, but I was gaslighted and this is definitely a form of VERBAL abuse. Did I mention that I was gaslighted? No? I told you that I wouldn't go into too much detail. If you want to connect with me and have questions, you can do it privately, but no... there are mad people needing to crank out some things that they think they know about. Way to go? ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ‘

These comments were written by people that apparently have a good experience with their host family. I am really relieved and happy for them that they got this lucky chance. But in general: if you downgrade a situation that is worse than yours or kinda take part on victim blaming, you're the part of the problem.

๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

Enjoy your day, my loves. Peace out! ✌

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Au Pair: Verbally abused. Rematch.

Hey, my angels! ๐Ÿน

I mentioned (here) that my au pair year had come to an end earlier than I planned, but I only mentioned indirectly that I was in my au pair rematch. I'm truly sorry for keeping that topic back from the blog, guys. I wasn't ready to talk about it.

Then, when I went back to my homecountry, I filmed a video about why my host family sent me home & why my rematch could work, but didn't at the end.

IMPORTANT: It's based on my experience & my perspective. It takes two to tango. I love the au pair program (my agency was Interexchange & choosing that agency was the best decision I ever made - no advertisement). I thank my host family for taking good care of me when it comes to provision. And no prejudices, please. One au pair gets along better with a host family than the other. :) 

It was all fine with my hostmom at the beginning. I was impressed by her ability to use words. I counted my blessings: my au pair benefits (accommodation, etc.), an own bathroom, free weekends, gifts, I was allowed to use the car, gym membership was paid for me, etc. It was a LONG LIST! I felt like heaven.

Three months later, my host mom came to me & said she created a personal review about me. On that review, she wrote stuff what I did right or wrong & gave me points from 1-5. She did that on a quarterly basis. She sent me that review via e-mail and discussed with me about my work personally with that ugly list between us. Nothing wrong with discussing about the work, but a list of rating me? Really??? I read it and just thought "what the actual fuck" & tears came into my eyes. I just graduated from high school and now, I needed to be treated like I was in school again? Did I even ask for it? That list gave me a bad conscience & I tried to give my all. I knew I wasn't perfect & wasn't suppose to be, but that performance review put such a pressure on me. I didn't want to make her sad and disappointed in me after everything she gave me. We got along so well, I thought. I tried so hard to please her, it was ridiculous. I still made clumsy mistakes & felt worse. That review list could be compared with a diet. If you are on a diet & you don't lose weight, you jut feel like shit. The scale could be my host mom metaphorically, screaming that you didn't do any improvements. Or maaaaybe just little ones, but they didn't count because her fact was that I still had a long way to go. I felt like a robot. She must've thought I was a robot to fulfill all her fantasies. Because I was the host family's first au pair, she clearly had high expectations & judged me for more little details. It's good to get feedback, so that I could improve myself, but the way she spoke to me & used harsh words wasn't okay at all. She would say I did this good, but then there was another thing to complain about. I wished she could speak to me in a calm way, but... I remember her touching my shoulders with both hands and saying: "Loanica... this is serious, okay? This is BAD. [...]"


I told my boyfriend in tears about how I made my host mom feel. How I made her feel! No, I didn't focus on how she made me feel. I thought I was the only problem. I simultaneously felt bad about talking with my boyfriend about it because I thought: "After all, she gives me a lot & provides me very well, right?" He was the one who made me realize that she tried to manipulate me & all I did was just stating to him what happened. He told me that this whole thing was business relationship anyway & just because she provided for me, it didn't give her the right to treat me like that.

The relationship between my host mom & me became worse. I was isolated in fear. I was afraid to face her because I knew she'd judge me about something... again. My fear turned to dishonesty & she judged me for my dishonesty. I know my dishonesty was a bad thing, but there was a reason behind it. I believe in everything you do or think, there's a reason behind it. You need to find the root & then try to solve it if you're the cause. My hostmom didn't help anything at all, even though I spoke with her why I acted like that. I told her she spoke to me in a way that discouraged me. It was the nicest way I could put it. However, it was justified in some way I didn't understand. She also said I'd justify things when I did mistakes. Well, people who live in glass houses...

Well, now that was MY "performance review" about her. There were more things going on. Today, I sat in the library & little tears came into my eyes. I was so, so angry about me for not reacting when she once stated, "You weren't raised right!". There were so many times she threw her temper tantrums at me like a kid, trying to tell me I was thinking like a kid. She acted like she knew me 100% in such a short period of time. I was also angry with me for allowing her to treat me like a complete fool.
Then I reminded myself what I learned from all my experience that was totally worth it. I could improve myself looking at her judgments against me, not for her sake, but for mine. I'm more mature & expanded and changed my way of thinking, became much more confident than I used to be. I learned to handle things in a different way. Thanks to all that & my experiences during my au pair year. I forgive myself.


To au pairs: How is/was your relationship with your host family? Hopefully good!
To others: Have you ever been insulted/verbally abused before?

Sunday, November 5, 2017

A man made a move on me - in front of my boyfriend ๐Ÿ˜‚

Happy Sunday, my awesome readers! ✿

Let's make a throwback today. Guys, I'm telling you, my boyfriend & I always have a good laugh with this story. ๐Ÿ˜‚
It was in Montrรฉal this year (read the trip: here). I was with my boyfriend at a bar in our hostel. My boyfriend was deep in conversation with the bartender. I'm not good at joining in other people's conversation, so I let the men talk & enjoyed the chill vibe at the bar. It looked like I was alone at the bar. ๐ŸŽง๐Ÿ˜Š

Later, a man sat next to me, so I sat between him and my boyfriend. He wanted to order a drink & we both just said 'hi' because we were Asians & it was kinda common that Asian strangers greet each other, lol. That man started a conversation with me, asked about me, where I'm from & all that. It was a casual conversation & he spoke kindly. The more we talked, the more it was clear that he got more interested & tried to get to know me more than casual. ๐Ÿ˜† However, I just responded laid-back as is right and proper. Furthermore, I had my boyfriend next to me, so it was all safe. ๐Ÿ˜‹ A little while later, my boyfriend put his arm around me. Suddenly, the Asian man wasn't really interested in getting into a conversation with me anymore & left after a moment. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Seemed like he didn't know that I was in a relationship. ๐Ÿ˜


Have you ever been hit on by somebody?
Did you have the similar situation like mine? ๐Ÿ˜‹

Saturday, November 4, 2017

My Godmother ♥

Hey, my loves!

I was invited to my godmother's. Her home is so comfortable. The garden is filled with beautiful flowers & magnificent plants that are taken care of very well by her husband and her.

I remember I began to sing "Queen of the Night (The Magic Flute)" [the part I always sing: 0:43 - 0:56] by Mozart 5 years ago, when I went through their cunning garden. The song has always been my favorite opera song and my godmother loves watching the opera, too. From that point on, whenever I go to their house, I always start to sing that music. That's what I'll be recognized by my godmother & her husband. Today, my godmother even said: "I have the feeling that if you come here, that song has to be sung, otherwise it won't be the same." What a sweetheart! ❤


This is everytime the way they set the table for me whenever I come to visit them. A nice candle with nice decorations. Today, my godmom's husband picked pretty leaves from his garden, just for me. Classical music was played in the background. We sat at the table and started to talk until the dark. I'm so lucky to have my godmother as my godmother. She's the best I could ever wish for. I told her that I could feel so unconcerned like a child when I was with her because she knew me as a baby.

How my godmother became my godmother:
It was on a day when my mom went to church and prayed for a godmother for her youngest & then-godmotherless child (me). She went out of the church afterwards and met Mary. My mom knew Mary through the preschool where Mary took care of her other daughters. Mary & my mom started to chat, and my mom asked Mary if she would like to be my godmother. Mary agreed. ๐Ÿ’• I was baptized at the church where they met. I'm not consider myself as Catholic anymore, but I'm infinitely grateful that my mom got me a lovely godmother through her belief. 

Do you also have a godmother/godfather?

Thursday, November 2, 2017

Embarrassing: "Playing footsie" with a sleeping man ๐Ÿ˜ณ

Hey, sweeties!

It was 5 AM, dark outside. There were very few people in the train. I sat on the four-seats-place to have a loooot of space for myself. Behind the seat in front of me, there was a sleeping man who sat facing backwards. I saw his feet under the seat in front of me, but it didn't really matter, as I didn't sit on that seat he put his feet under (lol, would be weird).

I sat down with my legs together making sure, not to touch the man's stretched feet. I read a book and was very absorbed in it. A few minutes later, I stretched my legs while I was reading. I was so sunk in the story, I noticed something against my toe shoe. I remembered wondering what it was, but didn't look up from my story book, so I just tapped with my toe shoe against that hard "thing" a couple times. Suddenly, that "something" went away, I didn't feel any resistance on my toe shoe anymore. I looked up, noticed that I totally forgot about the man's feet under the seat. ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

My face:

The man craned his neck and also looked in surprise because he got up from his sleep. Then he grinned at me. I apologized and then he went back to sleep. I laughed in silence to not waking up the man again, ughhhh!


Any embarrassing stories you dare to share, guys? :D

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Day Trip: Luxembourg

Welcome back, my babies! ๐ŸŒธ


My mom & grandma decided to have a day trip to Luxembourg. I had never been there before, but I knew that it's the smallest country in Europe (fun fact: it takes 30 minutes to drive from the west of Luxembourg to the east! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ). Guess who needed to drive...


At the beginning, I wasn't really in the mood to go to Luxembourg today because I had a lot to do for college.

My boyfriend: "Ohhh, how bad it is to be able to travel around...! ๐Ÿ˜‚"

Wow, the golden statue up there & the two people down there.

He finds it fascinating how we Europeans are able to be in another country in a short time. Starting from North to South Europe, it would be the same size like Texas, that one state. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ (see: here)

As you guys know - I LOVE traveling! I'm super blessed to have Luxembourg not too far from me. But that's why: because I could go there anytime in a short time, I found that another day would actually be better for my schedule.

The only thing is: my grandma (if you know my blog, you saw her already) is going to be back in Vietnam in three weeks. It was convenient for her today that I had holiday & that it was sunny. That's why I wanted to make her happy. Also my mom needed a wonderful break from her ultrabusy life. ๐Ÿ˜Š

queen! 

I was in the capital of Luxembourg: Luxembourg (lol). It's a nice town for taking a walk, enjoying the view of  mountains. The buildings are especially beautiful. Kinda French-styled buildings. The streets and the atmosphere are very clean. Even if I was there for the first time today, I didn't expect anything new. It was a relaxing day today, nothing too wild.

Found a new spot for all dem Instagram bloggers. For real, such insta-material, right? xd


How was your day? Was also a holiday for you today?

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Halloween - not this year... ๐Ÿ˜•

Happy Halloween, my beautiful/handsome vamps! ๐ŸŽƒ

How envy I get when I see everyone going to the club or to a party with their costumes on. It sucks not to have the time & the cash for that, y'all feel me? -_-'

One day, when I don't have to worry about learning some shit anymore, I would definitely invest my time to celebrate all holidays in a dedicated way. I'd like to have nice decorations, good music & food that's usually made in the holidays. The thought of celebrating with the right people, omgg! ๐Ÿ˜


Today, my mom has guests over. I need to hide in my room, though, because last time I saw that Vietnamese woman, she literally said in shock how fat I was and that I needed to lose some weight. It's the last thing I want to hear right now. Can you imagine how humiliating it was for me?

I am going to blog daily, btw. I remember when I was 13 and usually read other blogs. Always got disappointed if there weren't new blog posts, lol! That's why I don't wanna disappoint y'all because I know how it feels like to check out a blog & not seeing anything new. ๐Ÿ˜

Stay fly, my vamps! Oh...! Vamps. Flying. Y'all know what I mean? ๐Ÿ˜ Omg, lame. I'm sure you're going to read so many lame puns like that. x'D

Monday, October 30, 2017

My commuter life...๐Ÿš„

After my stay in the United States, it's time to get to the next step of my life: college.

I attend a University of Applied Sciences in Germany. My major is really nice, but there's one thing that is such a huge pain in the ass: I need to ride the train for 2 hours to university and 2 hours back = 4 hours! 5x/week. ๐Ÿ˜…
Is it exhausting? Yes, for sure!!!

Y'all probably wonder why I don't just move out. Let's be honest, it's such a huge effort to move out. You need to pay rent, living expenses (like food) & you gotta take care of your household. No, thank you. Ain't nobody got time for that. I better stay at Hotel mommy.


My daily routine
4:00 AM - waking up ⏰
4:10 AM - brushing teeth
4:30 AM - to the gym (i eat a banana before, lol)
5:20 AM - walking the dogs
5:30 AM - breakfast
6:57 AM - catching the train
9:10 AM - arrival at the university
10:00 AM - lecture starts

  • The public transportation in Germany is very spread. It's easy to get to a place wherever you want to go.
  • On Thursday & Friday, the lecture starts at 8AM. I skip the Friday one, so on Thursday, I need to wake up at 3 AM. I'm an early bird, so it's kinda fine. I just gotta sleep at f*cking 8 PM. ๐Ÿ˜‚
I don't complain, though. It's a decision I made and it's doable, even if it's very tiring. I'm sure I'll be very proud of myself in 3.5 years after my Bachelor of Arts graduation. :)

Sunday, October 15, 2017

EXTREME DIET: Lost my period for 6 months.

Hi lovelies!
Making videos is so fun lately. I still don't forget about this blog, though. :D


Tuesday, September 5, 2017

Update: End of AuPair Life... Goodbye, USA.

Hello, my loves!
Recently, my friend told me I would neglect my blog. She is not wrong with that, lol. A lot happened in the last couple months.

Well, here's an important update: I am back in Germany since the 1st August! Can you guys believe it? It was actually planned that I would stay for 13 months in the USA, but it ended up being 10 months. I thought about making a special video for you guys to answer everything about why I came back earlier to Germany and how I'm feeling now. Don't hesitate to write any kinds of questions down in the comments, I'm an open book, really! Don't forget to mention if you want to be named in the video or not. :-)

I spent my "travel month" (that every aupair gets after their work as an aupair) at my boyfriend's. I didn't really travel. Sounds crazy, right? I will explain everything in a video.

Here a brief summary of my last day: My last day in the States was quite nice. My boyfriend & his best friend organized a farewell party for me at the backyard. Their friends came over and also mine (one went home earlier and the other arrived later). We played beer pong. I played it for the first time & I'm proud to say that I let my team win the last shot. *giving myself a pat on the back* :D We also had a BBQ. It was a cool time. We went back home very late and woke up at noon to bring me to the JFK airport. I became so emotional when I went through the gates and waved goodbye to my boyfriend and his best friend. I couldn't stop crying like a baby. They made my aupair year awesome, including my aupair friends and other amazing people, who didn't stress me out. I can't thank everybody of you enough for following my journey that far. I will continue with this blog. I think I should start writing it in German, what do you guys think about it? The English (or other language) speakers can still translate my blog by clicking on the translation tab. I'm pretty sure that weird translations will turn out. xD However, I feel like typing in German is faster. :P I will make videos in English, though. Stay tuned. And don't forget to ask the questions before it's too late. :D

So long,

Loanica xx

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Homesickness: Do I miss my home country?

I remember these words my brousin (= brother + cousin) told me before I went to the USA: "I bet you will cry your eyes out after a week being in the States due to homesickness." Oh boy, we should've bet for money, for real. It's been 8 months already since I left my homeland Germany to reside in New York, USA.

My moments of nostalgia
  • One day, I was walking around in NYC. Among all the people speaking in English, I suddenly heard two men speaking in a language which sounded familiar to German. I listened closely and felt... nostalgic. The pedestrians' traffic lights turned red. I stood behind the two German men and wanted to speak to them. Then, the older of them turned his head to me and smiled at me, as if he heard in his mind that someone behind them wanted to approach them. His friendly smile encouraged me to do so. "Which part of Germany are you from?", I asked the men in English. "Hamburg", they said. They were quite surprised that I knew that they were Germans. I told them that I was born in Germany. That was all. I did not say that I was able to speak German, so they did not focus on that. We were speaking in English. They asked me where to get Broadway tickets cheaply as though I had been spending my whole life in New York. I felt kinda joyful to be regarded as an American.
  • Another day, I went to an Anglistic Church in my town for the first time out of curiosity. I went to that church's office and met Carol, a secretary of that church. Carol offered me to take a seat on a nice armchair. We had a nice conversation. I told her that I came to Germany in September. She looked all astonished and said: "The secretary in the other room is also from Germany!!!" Do you mean her ethnicity or that she is really from Germany?, I thought. Carol called the German secretary's name. Then, a woman entered the room and stood at the door, greeting us. "This is Loanica", Carol introduced me, "she is from the West of Germany and came here a few months ago." The German secretary looked at me with big eyes. "Sie kรถnnen Deutsch sprechen? (You can speak German?)" She asked me excitedly and almost in tears. I felt her being nostalgic at that moment. I also felt the same. She explained that she had not spoken German for a long time because she did not know anyone in the little town who could speak German. She was glad to meet someone who finally spoke German.

Am I homesick or nah?
What I want to say with the two stories above is that I only have my little nostalgic moments when I hear someone speaking German somewhere. But fact is: you cannot really consider that as homesickness. 
I miss my family & friends in Germany. I miss the celebrations and events there that I cannot attend. However, these don't stop me from being here. I don't think about turning back home only to miss a great time of my life here in the States. There is so much more to learn & to explore. Even though there are downs (not because of homesickness), I know they're temporary because I have 5 months left until I get back home to Germany. I have much positive energy for the present and the exciting things coming up for me!

My hostkid took these pictures. She's got the skills!

Monday, April 24, 2017

I am: AN AU PAIR! What do you mean, "perfect life"?

I am an au pair. I am staying with a host family and take care of two adorable kids. An au pair is a young adult from a foreign country who works in another country to work for a host family and becomes a part of the family's routine. You usually do childcare related tasks. As an au pair, you have to take a lot of responsibility. You are trusted with the most precious gift of a parental couple & you better not mess up. :D Au pairs have childcare experiences, mostly through babysitting, working in a childcare, etc.

Perfect life?
Recently, I was told by a blog reader I seemed to have a perfect life as an au pair. I looked at my blog & you could really assume everything is a picnic for me. I'm sorry for breaking the illusion, but it ain't. The articles that I uploaded so far are about experiencing new places and my travels. These, however, happen on the weekends or on my vacation, not everyday. I only posted about these big things because they are new to you and more exciting. Well, behind all these big things, there is work. In general, work can be pleasant and unpleasant. Au pairing is not easy peasy lemon squeezy (au pairs, are you with me? :P). When you read blogs, you might think that everyday consists of no worries, but only good vibes. You compare yourself to the bloggers and might want to be them or want a life like them. Nah, bruh, life ain't easy for everyone. I want to make you aware of the fact that bloggers are also humans. There are ups and downs for everybody, even celebrities, even though it doesn't seem that way. This is reality. We bloggers tend to publish the pleasant part of our lives. We leave the bad parts out 'cause they might be too private to publish. There is also the case that bloggers want to escape from the reality, which is understandable. At the end of the day, my dear blog readers, you need to realize that also you have things in your life you can cherish, although you don't feel that way. You only need to focus on them, rather than the unpleasant ones. Then you have the peaceful life that you read in the "life seems to be perfect" blogs. xD I try not to let my blog appear as my life is so perfect like that. I am also a human being with flaws & I am totally honest with that and proud of that. It makes me me.

As a matter of fact, I am doing excellent. Not excellent in the manner of "My life is absolutely perfect because I do travels everyday", but "I'm excellent because my gratitude is so grand for the things in my life that make me happy. Even though I have my downs, too, I am grateful for each moment I can learn from. At the end, I will be a much more stronger person. I know that I am a persistent and purposeful human being." ➳

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Montrรฉal, Canada: How the romantic trip was almost cancelled...!

The drama...
The trip to Montrรฉal, Canada was planned two weeks before it. It would be my first time in Canada. My love and I decided to take the train there. On the day of our trip, we went into the train to buy our tickets. It hadn't been possible for us to book our train ride online, but we knew that you could buy your ticket onboard. Suddenly, we were told that there were no seats available anymore and that you should actually reserve seats by the phone beforehand............ Oh crap. My love called the train service right away to book our seats to try our luck, while the train was keep riding.

How I felt? Normally, you would feel nervous and anxious that the trip would be cancelled, but for some reason, my mind refused to think negatively in that moment. I was full of hope. Strangely, I was even certain the trip will happen... I seriously didn't even think about what would happen if it didn't work. All I knew was that the trip is gonna go on. I am so thankful that my love was doing all that booking on the phone. He sounded very calm and didn't panic. At least he didn't sound like that. Really admirable! Hats off! And hands down - if I had done it, I would've stuttered around and asked the person at the other end of the phone the whole time to repeat because of the noise of the moving train. ^^'

The booking was successful. We got to know that there were only 2 seats left and we were the ones that received those seats. How crazy is that???!!! Thank God. Definitely not something to take for granted. It was a miracle.
Poutine - a popular specialty in Canada.

It was a 10-hours- train ride to get from New York to Montreal. During the ride, you could see a lot of nature. The last time I saw livestock (horses, cows, etc.) was in Germany six months ago. It was nice to see the countryside again. For my love, the countryside was something very phenomenal. Imagine you live in New York (City) where it is urban. To get to the next countryside would probably take hours. In Germany, I lived in the city and had the luck that the countryside was twenty minutes away by bus.
I enjoyed watching my love looking out the window and describing the details of the countryside.  So poetic and lovely! Actually, the countryside was something usual for me when I was in Germany, but seeing him being so fascinated by the countryside made me appreciate what I have in Germany.
The next day, we left our hostel and I didn't know where we were heading. My love had been to Montreal before, so he wanted to surprise me. It turned out to be the famous Notre-Dame de Montrรฉal (a basilica). We wanted to go in to see the architecture. Then a woman standing before the church said to us that it was church service time. I thought to myself it was Church Sunday anyway and it would be interesting to attend a mass in French, so why not?
Architecture on point, bruh!
At a Cafรฉ-Boutique named "Eva B". Definitely one of my favorites in Montrรฉal. We played chess there. :D 

Facts for Newbies & my discoveries
  • The Canadian currency is the Canadian Dollar. You can also pay with USD (= United States Dollar) in most places.
  • I perceived the Canadians as polite.
  • In Quรฉbec, you speak French.
  • The cars don't have a license plate number in the front! o.o
  • The siren isn't noisy and annoying (unlike in the States or in Germany -.-), even calm. :D
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Mont-Royal
We headed to Mont-Royal, the famous small mountain in Montrรฉal! It was exhausting to walk all the way up to have a splendid view of the city of Montrรฉal, especially because it was a hot day.

Reached the top, I'm all the way up!
We kept walking to the top of the mountain and reached the Mont-Royal-cross monument made of steel.

At the campus of the McGill university. There was a natural history museum there ("Redpath Museum"). 

We stayed in Canada for three days. On the day we left, it was rainy. Phew, countless blessings we had during our Easter vacation. Now back to my au pair duties. I have interesting posts coming. Are you excited for them? The warm seasons are just around the corner, so I will have more things to do & I can't wait to share them to you. :) Cheerio~

Friday, April 14, 2017

Washington DC: Cherry Blossom Season!

I am over with the hard winter season the last couple months. Now - for the next 6 months I'm staying here in the United States -, I can enjoy the warm seasons. :) I decided to make a weekend trip in Washington D.C. (the capital of the US). The travel bus, that I took from New York to get there, made a sightseeing tour out of the whole day...

Thank God, that weekend was sunny! Not only in DC, but also in New York. It was surprising because it rained for the last couple weeks. Lucky me! In Spring, the cherry blossoms start to bloom. I am glad that I had the chance to experience the cherry blossom season (at the Tidal Basin) that is famous in DC. *-* You need to know, I LOVE cherry blossoms! 

Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial. I had the choice of two pictures at this memorial. On the other picture, there was no person in the background. However, I like that shot of me better, but there is a person standing behind me. T_T

Lincoln Memorial
I needed to walk up a long stairway to get to the Lincoln Memorial. It was crazy, crazy! A real workout, buddies! I started to pant like a dog. It was noticeable that I found walking upstairs was very unpleasant. Yep, I'm a very expressive person. :P

Washington Monument
Opposite the Lincoln Memorial, you could see the Washington Monument. If I've had a lot of time, I would've spent my time right there! Eating food, watching people & smile at them. These are things of various things I live for. :)

The White House
a.k.a. Donald Trump's home. Is this side of the White House familiar to you? It's seen in the 20-dollar-banknote.

The U.S. Capitol
...where the laws are made.

I had a blast in DC. I stayed in the Hilton hotel (Arlington, Virginia) which is 20 minutes away from DC. I met a German girl and we spoke German for a bit. It was... strange to speak German again. German is my dominant language. I speak German fluently, with a slight Vietnamese accent - although I only speak Vietnamese with Vietnamese people from the older generation (like my parents) or people from Vietnam. Well, now that I spoke German in person after a long time again, I noticed that I've got a stronger accent when speaking German. I don't know what accent it is, but I barely speak Vietnamese and barely improve my French skills currently. I don't believe that I have an American accent at all, even if I speak English consistently. Maybe it's all mixed up, that's why I have my own Loanica-accent. *grin*

The next post is gonna be about my trip to Montreal, Canada.